The universe is presenting a lot of curve balls lately. Some of them I have heard whizzing past my head – others have hit me straight in my face.
There are economic changes, political changes and for some of us, big life changes.
It seems changes are leaving many of us in situations that we never thought we would find ourselves in (again): needing to start all over.
Regardless of how we might have ended up here – it’s not easy for any of us.
Over the next couple of days, I am going to be exploring starting over.
I have here before – but each time I am brought here, I am startled by how scary and confusing it is for me.
Most of us had grown so used to our lives and the way it flowed; we don’t know how to handle waking up not knowing what to do next.
For me, the first step is reframing. We all are warriors against the paralysis that can consume us at these times…. we need to make a commitment to view the upcoming challenge as an adventure. Starting over may feel scary, but it's really a cause for celebration. Think of it as exciting, and many of your anxious feelings will begin to fade.
And this adventure requires nothing short of calling upon your inner super-hero - to tap into your inner powers. I know we doubt our super powers – it’s just the way we roll…but I assure you, they ARE there. You wouldn’t still be here today if you didn’t have them.
It’s a chance to reincarnate.
Superhero starter kit :
- Change your Mindset. Starting over is not the same as recouping from a failure. It is a new beginning. This mindset is vital because it keeps you from wasting your time being too hard on yourself.
- Remind yourself that endings are simply new beginnings. Endings are not necessarily bad things. Even if the past year was your best so far, the one ahead might just leave it in the dust. This is also true if it's been your worst year so far, and you've suddenly found yourself unemployed or unattached. It’s a universal law. No one escapes this.
- Remember that your future is not governed by your past. No matter what has happened in your life, you can find a way to make things a little better for yourself.
- Taking action by doing something, almost anything, will help you work through your anxiety.Sometimes it's doing the dishes or working in your garden. Other times it's reading or meditating. Just sitting around and thinking about your worries won't make them go away.
- Spend some time focusing and setting a few simple goals. I suggest setting two or three short-range goals at a time – else the task becomes too overwhelming. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time, is the only way, baby.
Starting over is about giving yourself a chance at real happiness.
So, tomorrow when you wake up start doing something right away, and keep busy all day.
Remember that becoming a superhero is not an overnight task - we need time and effort. We need to take our heads from under the sand, put our pride aside and be willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild our lives.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but taking action in spite of fear.
Take some baby steps – it’s more positive than doing nothing.
Just for today.
